Anxiety influences all our relationships – with family, colleagues and friends.
Three Problems Caused by Anxiety:-
1. Irritability and/or sudden outbursts of Anger
3. Frozen inactivity
In the case of Irritability or Anger, compassion and empathy go for a hike. Instead we think selfishly: “Why does s/he have to be so demanding when I have so much on my plate already?”.
And Anxiety and Worry are a pair, like toast and butter. You feel anxious, you imagine anything and everything going wrong.
Like the creative person that you are, you do this really well and imagine more and more disastrous outcomes and ‘what ifs’. You’re not a bundle of laughs in this state.
In the state of frozen inactivity, Anxiety starts to prevent you from doing important things that you need to do. When that happens, the Anxiety is winning, and is starting to take over your life.
All these become relationship problems, which were created initially by the Anxiety, but soon become the new problem which feeds the Anxiety.
The whole thing takes on its own life, becoming a loop of relationship problems and anxiety, each continuously feeding into each other.
So you withdraw from people and it worries you……
The one key to unlocking these problems is to use your imagination to start relating again with others. By focussing on the problem, you’ve been narrowing your attention and failing to see the bigger picture. Your problems are entrancing to you and they have been isolating you.
Understanding this will make a big difference almost straight away because our brains are hardwired for connection and if we isolate ourselves by being emotionally involved with our problems, we will inevitably become more and more absorbed by our problems.
So watch future blogs for more on how to use your imagination for you instead of against you.
My JNET interview part two
Carole Nyman Interview Part 2
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