How A Single Key Unlocks 3 Problems Caused by Anxiety.


Anxiety influences all our relationships – with family, colleagues and friends.

Three Problems Caused by Anxiety:-


1. Irritability and/or sudden outbursts of Anger

2. Worry

3. Frozen inactivity

In the case of Irritability or Anger, compassion and empathy go for a hike. Instead we think selfishly:  “Why does s/he have to be so demanding when I have so much on my plate already?”.

And Anxiety and Worry are a pair, like toast and butter. You feel anxious, you imagine anything and everything going wrong.

Like the creative person that you are, you do this really well and imagine more and more disastrous outcomes and ‘what ifs’.  You’re not a bundle of laughs in this state.


In the state of frozen inactivity, Anxiety starts to prevent you from doing important things that you need to do. When that happens, the Anxiety is winning, and is starting to take over your life.

All these become relationship problems, which were created initially by the Anxiety, but soon become the new problem which feeds the Anxiety.

The whole thing takes on its own life, becoming a loop of relationship problems and anxiety, each continuously feeding into each other.

So you withdraw from people and it worries you……

The one key to unlocking these problems is to use your imagination to start relating again with others.  By focussing on the problem, you’ve been narrowing your attention and failing to see the bigger picture.  Your problems are entrancing to you and they have been isolating you.

Understanding this will make a big difference almost straight away because our brains are hardwired for connection and if we isolate ourselves by being emotionally involved with our problems, we will inevitably become more and more absorbed by our problems.

So watch future blogs for more on how to use your imagination for you instead of against you.

My JNET interview part two

Carole Nyman Interview Part 2

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Carole’s Blueprint for Success –

Hi!  Welcome to my brand new Blueprint for Success tips for life and relationships.

I hope you’ll find it an informative and entertaining resource to enhance the quality of your life and sense that life is meaningful.

My background was a family solicitor, my ethos is strengths based –searching for ways to help you enhance your internal resources.

Perhaps you want to get a better handle on your emotions, have less anxiety or more magical moments. In the end, it all pretty well comes down to the quality of your relationships with other people in your life.

So I’ll pass on to you knowledge that I have gleaned from the worlds of therapy, social science and neuro-science, as well as bring you new developments as they occur.

By way of an introduction, here is extract 1 from a radio interview with me by Laura Gassner on JNET radio.

Carole Nyman Interview Part 1

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